Convincing Myself That a Truly Headache Inducing Client isn’t Worth It

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We often push our limits even though we realize it may not be for the better. I think some clients are reacting to the dysfunction that is in all our lives during this time of the pandemic and rushing workloads to accomplish all we/they can before a possible worse scenario hits in the latter part of this year.

I’ve had clients that demand nearly all of my attention on a project of theirs that is so small in comparison to other massive works that aren’t so insistent on occupying all my focus regardless of the detail necessary in making it a success. Those larger clients don’t hover over me. I realize that everyone’s project is important to them but maniacal moments don’t help either of us. Condescension won’t get them anywhere either.

Whether the client is paying us a lot of money or is giving us a tremendous workload or if someone is paying too little with unrealistic demands we are going to end up burned out and possibly even missing other deadlines or getting frustrated down the road. Simply put, these clients are not worth it. If you’ve ever heard of the Pareto principle which states that 80% of our business will come from 20% of our clients. We just need to focus on developing that core 20% who always give us a good experience; thereby maintaining positive mental health.

Getting back to nature

bridgeWalking at the Landscape Arboretum was always enjoyable for me but I quit with COVID and all. So today, I accompanied Robert on the drive to Lino Lakes to measure a client’s home. Afterward, a nice, peaceful walk cleared my mind a tad and I returned with renewed vigor and thought about starting up the blogs for my main author page and the pseudonym as well.

Social Isolation

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Avoiding others is something that I have to constantly work at because of things like side effects and memories of bad experiences such as hearing voices in the phone and not being able to discern what was real and what was not. It became difficult to have a conversation when so many voices were going off as well as distractions from visions. My thoughts would also become jumbled during conversations due to added anxiety. That is why I need to work my hardest at staying connected to others and put aside the fear of meeting strangers in a new energy healing class, qigong seminar or self-compassion/psychological wellbeing lecture that I’m interested in…and just go with the flow.

Group Meditation

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Prior to needing meditation, I never realized how many opportunities exist if you only look for them. From community college continuing education, to college walk-in silent group sessions, to the mental health non-profit opportunity I took part in today. I’ve found that meditation is necessary with my schizophrenia because it helps to control the restlessness and tremors when I relax and intentionally forces the stress out of mind and body. For me, not only is medication necessary but I don’t know where I’d be without silent group work.

Overcoming Schizophrenia

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Spiritual networking, movement exercises, and peer group work are some of ways that I’m handling my schizophrenia diagnosis. In addition to spirituality and resilience group therapy, and as well as qigong and yoga, I’ve also signed up for the following classes:

The Art of Centering

Beyond Aromatherapy

Nutrition and Cancer

Crystal Singing Bowl Sound Bath

Integrative Wellness

WarmFeet Intervention

Writing from the Body

Soul Journeying and Drum Circle

The nutrition classes aren’t just for me but my family as well. My daughter was diagnosed with MALT lymphoma a few years back and is undergoing immunotherapy maintenance (Rituximab). Centering and Journeying are more spiritual in nature and WarmFeet is because I am pre-diabetic. The sound and aromatherapy is simply peaceful and relaxing while the writing is therapeutic and helps with cognitive setbacks.  I’m often socially withdrawn because of my schizophrenia and medication side effects so these classes keep me communicating with others. The others in the groups all experience different illnesses or are caregivers to someone so it helps to know how others cope with unfortunate illness or life’s setbacks.